Need help?

Whether you’re worried about a friend or family member / you feel unsafe in your relationship / you think you might be hurting someone you care about, you’re not alone. There’s help, and things can get better.

Worried About Someone?

If you think a friend might be in a toxic or abusive relationship, it’s awesome that you care. That support could mean the world to them. But remember:

  • You can’t “fix” things for them — and that’s okay.

  • It’s not your job to save them. Just being there and showing you care is huge.

  • If someone’s acting controlling, threatening, or disrespectful — trust your gut. That’s not okay.

What can you do?

Pick a good time and place to talk — somewhere private and chill.

  • Be honest and kind. Say what you’ve seen and why you’re concerned.

  • Don’t judge or criticize them. That can make it harder for them to open up.

  • Talk to a trusted adult — a teacher, coach, counselor, or family member.

  • Stay safe! If things ever get dangerous, don’t step in alone — call xxx or the police.

Not Feeling Safe in Your Relationship?

If you’re feeling controlled, scared, or just know something’s wrong — trust that feeling. You don’t deserve that.

Ask yourself:

  • Is your partner super jealous or always checking on you?

  • Do they put you down or make you feel small?

  • Do they tell you what to wear, who to talk to, or where to go?

  • Are you scared of how they’ll react if you upset them?

  • Do they guilt you into doing things — even stuff you’re not comfortable with?

  • Do they look at your messages or track your location with or without asking?

  • Do they break things, yell, or say it’s your fault when they’re mean?

If any of this sounds familiar, you could be in an abusive relationship. Even if you’re not sure — if you don’t feel safe, you deserve support.

Talk to someone you trust — a teacher, coach, counselor, or family member. You can also reach out to a helpline or local service for help. And if you ever feel in danger — call xxx right away.

Worried You Might Be Hurting Someone?

If your partner feels scared, trapped, or like they can’t be themselves — that’s not a healthy relationship.

Ask yourself:

  • Have I yelled at my partner to get my way?

  • Do I make fun of her opinions or tell her what she can wear or who to hang out with?

  • Have I ever pushed, slapped, or threatened her?

  • Have I pressured her into doing things she didn’t want to?

  • Do I read her messages, follow her location, or check up on her all the time?

If the answer is “yes” to any of these — it’s time to make a change.

Why change?

  • You’ll feel better about yourself — more confident and in control.

  • You’ll have better, more trusting relationships in the future.

  • You’ll help the people you care about feel safe and free to be themselves.

It takes real strength to admit when you’ve messed up — and to do something about it. Talk to someone you trust and get support from professionals who can help you make things right.

Abuse is never okay — and it’s never too late to change. Talk to a trusted adult — a teacher, coach, counselor, or family member. You can also reach out to a helpline or local service for help.